Filing for divorce is never an easy choice. Even for people who are desperately unhappy, a divorce is heartbreaking. It is the end of the dream of the happily ever after fairy tale every marriage begins. Many couples still have affectionate feelings for their spouse, but they simply cannot live together any longer.
An amicable divorce is one in which both spouses agree to be friendly during the process and work together to reach an agreement that separates their lives. The settlement includes details of spousal support, child support, child visitation plans and many other items. When spouses work on the settlement together, they both save hundreds, if not thousands, of dollars in lawyer fees. The more you fight about your settlement, the more you will need to pay your attorneys.
Many people hear the term “friendly” divorce and say there is no such thing. Even couples who say they hate each other can have an amicable divorce. For those who cannot sit together and work on a settlement, a divorce mediator is the best solution. A mediator is a neutral third party who will listen to both parties and offer suggestions for the settlement that are fair. Remember that “fair” and “equal” are not necessarily the same thing. What is fair may be the parent with a smaller salary getting more than half of the savings to help care for the children.
Another thing to remember is that “friendly” divorce does not mean you are friends. Friendy simply means that you are both willing to work together and be respectful to the other person. No one expects the two of you to be friends and meet for lunch or hang out. Just be respectful and kind to your spouse and know that working together for an amicable divorce is the best option for you, your spouse and your family.
An amicable divorce will be finalized sooner with much less stress and anxiety. This is easier for your children and both of you. Your children need to see that even if you don’t love each other anymore, you can still work together for the best options for them. They need to know that mom and dad will always do what’s best for their lives.
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