The decision has been made and you want a divorce. Now, if you are like most people, you want it done as quickly as possible. Quick divorces are possible, but you need to be willing to work with your spouse to make decisions and file paperwork.
Often, the reason a divorce takes so long is that the spouses are fighting over every decision and refuse to give in to anything their spouse may suggest. While this may seem like a great way to get back at him/her one last time, it is impossible to obtain a quick divorce with this attitude. Everyone understands you are angry and hurt, but dragging your divorce out for months over who gets an antique rocking chair is crazy.
Obviously, there are times when the decisions you cannot agree on are much more important than a simple object. Deciding visitation for children, especially if one parent is moving away, can be very painful. At the same time, it is extremely hard on children when their parents are constantly fighting and there is no end in sight. If you and your spouse have come to a complete standstill on matters regarding your children, consider hiring a mediator to help you make the best decisions for your children.
Mediators can also help with any financial matters you need to agree on. Each state has its own guidelines for child and spousal support. An attorney can advise you of your state’s requirements to help you and your spouse reach a decision. If you and your spouse can come to agreements on everything, you can file for dissolution in many states and it could be completed in three months.
If a quick divorce is all you can think about, then you may have to swallow your anger and pride and agree to work with your spouse to finalize decisions. It may be the hardest thing you have ever done, but a quick divorce will be well worth the effort it takes to work out decisions with your spouse. If he/she is unwilling, gently remind them of how much money you will save and how much sooner you can both begin to heal and move on with your lives if you get a quick divorce.
Even if saving money and being out of an unhappy marriage are not reasons enough to work together, think of your children. Working together saves them heartache and you can obtain your quick divorce.