Divorce is never easy, but trying to stay friendly with your spouse during the process can make it easier on everyone involved. This is known as an amicable divorce and every couple who is filing should strive to keep their divorce as amicable as possible. If you and your spouse can work together to reach an agreement, you will save yourself anxiety, time and money.
If you are lucky enough to still be able to talk to your spouse, an amicable divorce should be fairly easy for you. Commit to work together to reach a settlement that works for you both. This can be difficult even for couples who remain friendly, so don’t give up if you hit a roadblock. Step away from the discussion and continue a few days later. Once you have both calmed down, try again to find a satisfactory settlement.
Couples who have already gotten to the point of constant fighting may have a harder time to work together, but it is still possible. When you sit down with your spouse, treat the meeting as a business transaction. Keep your emotions out of your discussion. Yes, it will be extremely hard, but if you want to get through your divorce quicker, you need to do this.
A divorce mediator is a good option if you want to work out the details of your settlement, but simply cannot work with your spouse. A mediator will listen to both sides and make recommendations as to what would be fair to both parties. Remember that fair does not mean equal and be prepared to make concessions. You do not want your divorce to drag out for years over a piece of furniture.
To make sure your divorce stays amicable, there are several things you can do. Always treat your spouse with respect, no matter how you truly feel. Be friendly. Never bring up details from your marriage just to get a rise from your spouse. If you need to vent, call a friend. When you are in a meeting with your spouse, remember to remove all emotion. If your spouse gets angry, do not yell back. This is not going to be easy, but the reward in the end is paying less money to your attorney, a quicker divorce and less stress on you.
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