These days, it seems like everyone knows someone who has either had an affair or was cheated on by their significant other. Some people have a fling looking for a night of fun while other people are looking for something that is missing from their relationship. The question is – can a marriage survive adultery?
The answer is yes! Of course a marriage can survive adultery! But, it can only survive if both parties are willing to work hard on rebuilding trust and respect. Your marriage won’t be perfect overnight, but it obviously hasn’t been perfect for a while or the affair would not have happened. It takes a lot of time to get through the pain and anger of being betrayed and it may take time for the person who cheated to forget the other person.
None of this means it can’t be done. Each of you needs to learn to be honest with yourself and your spouse. You need to share your feelings and thoughts in a non-judgemental way and be ready for your spouse to do the same. It is more than likely that you will hear things that will hurt you, but if your marriage is going to survive, you need to be open to each other.
Sometimes, you may need extra help in putting your marriage back together. A marriage counsellor could be a wonderful idea to help you find your way back to each other. An affair involves so many aspects of your relationship that having a third person to help you communicate your anger and hurt could be just what you need to begin rebuilding your lives together.
It is a myth that an affair automatically means the marriage is over. Each of you will need to examine why the affair happened and agree to work on those issues, even if they are extremely painful to talk about. The only way to rebuild your marriage is to find the love and trust you may feel you have lost forever.
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