Coping with a divorce is never as easy as people think it will be. Many believe that since they wanted the divorce, it will be a piece of cake to handle life when everything is finalized and they can move on with their lives. This is rarely true. Even if you are happy you are divorced, you will still need to cope with the difference in your life.
Often, people can cope with their divorce by talking to family and friends. It takes time and you should not assume that you will feel better in a day or a week or a month. Everyone is different. As you vent or cry to your family, be sure your children are not in the area. The last thing you want is for your children to hear you saying nasty things about your ex. It is okay for them to see you cry, though. Divorce is hard on everyone and letting them see you sad allows them to show their feelings, too. Sometimes, children won’t show their emotions because they are afraid of upsetting you.
You will need to find ways to reduce your anxiety and stress during and after your divorce. Always remember to make time for yourself. Start a new hobby or return to one you haven’t done in a long time. Find ways to exercise – take the kids to a park and play with them, or take your dog for a walk. Exercise will reduce anxiety and will also help you sleep. Make sure you are eating right, even if you don’t feel like it.
If your anxiety becomes so strong that it is interfering with your life, you need to talk to your doctor. Explain exactly how you feel – including any symptoms such as headaches or insomnia. Your doctor may offer anxiety medication. Some people feel ashamed by admitting they need medication, but you shouldn’t. If you need the medication, take it and don’t worry about what people think.
Sometimes, talking to family or friends isn’t enough to help you. A counselor is trained in ways to help you cope with your divorce. Seeing a counselor is a good idea for anyone who needs help dealing with divorce. Your counselor will be completely neutral while listening to your thoughts and can offer tips to help you as you and your family cope with the divorce.
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