Going through a divorce is one of most stressful things that can happen to a person. Even in a bad marriage, there is some security in knowing what will happen each day and a divorce changes everything. Suddenly, your future is unknown and you have little to no control over what is happening around you. These feelings can cause anxiety and depression that are difficult to deal with.
If you have children, it is especially hard to deal with your divorce. You feel as if you need to be strong for your children and to show them that everything will be ok. You can’t show how scared you are or how sad without being worried that you may cause more harm to your children. Unfortunately, being strong all of the time is not possible and can harm you.
The first thing you need to remember when you are dealing with your divorce is that you cannot take care of anyone if you fall apart yourself. You need to take care of you before you can hope to give your children the stability they need. You have to take time to do something for yourself each day – start a new hobby, join a book club, begin an exercise program. Do whatever you need to help calm your own anxiety so you can help your children with theirs.
Dealing with divorce is not easy. You need to find someone to help you with the emotional issues as your lawyer handles the legal ones. Your lawyer should not be a shoulder to cry on – call a friend or family member when you need to vent or cry. If you are seriously depressed or can’t control your anxiety, call a therapist to help you. A few days of not sleeping or not eating right happen to everyone, but if your eating or sleeping habits have changed dramatically, you may be depressed and need help from a doctor.
Never be ashamed to ask for help. You do not need to deal with your divorce on your own. When a friend offers to watch your children, let him/her help you. Take a hot bath or go for a walk. If you need to cry, call someone. Your friends and family want to help you – let them help. Asking for help is not easy, but for you and your children’s sake, you need to ask for help when you need it to deal with your divorce.
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