Divorce mediation is a process that is becoming very popular among couples who want to file an amicable divorce but who simply cannot work out an agreement without help. A mediator will help the couple design a settlement that is satisfactory for each party so they can get the quick divorce they both want.
A mediator is a neutral third party so it does not matter which spouse hires the mediator. He/she will not take sides in any of the decisions, nor will it give your spouse an advantage to be the one who is paying for the mediator. Often, both parties pay a fair share of the cost and hiring a mediator often saves money in the end.
Any couple who agrees to work towards an amicable divorce should be congratulated. It is not an easy process, but it will save each spouse a lot of money and the divorce will be finished much quicker. During your appointment, you and your spouse (and your lawyers, if you wish) may be together as you talk to the mediator or, if the tension is too much, you may be separated and the mediator will go back and forth between the rooms.
Each side’s wants and needs will be heard and explained to the other spouse. New conditions will be presented by the mediator to each person. It can either be agreed to or a compromise can be offered. The process could take many hours or even several appointments, depending on how reasonable each spouse is.
As you work through the agreement with your mediator, you can discuss child custody, support and visitation, income taxes, property distribution and retirement plans. Everything that needs to be addressed in your divorce settlement can be talked about in mediation. If there are areas that you and your spouse already agree on, your mediation won’t take as long. Make sure you have discussed any agreements you have reached with your lawyer before you sign any paperwork.
Mediation is a wonderful process that allows a couple to have more control in what is in their divorce settlement. Once your divorce is in front of a judge, your control is gone and you will have to abide by whatever the judge seems fair. You and your spouse know your family’s needs the best – you need to work together to make sure that your divorce agreement is in the best interests of your children.
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