If you have children, the process of divorce is even more difficult. Trying to decide the best place and visitation schedule is emotional painful. This is especially true if you have been hurt by your spouse – all you may want to do is prevent him/her from ever seeing your children again.
Most of the time, couples are who filing an amicable divorce will agree to joint custody of the children. This means that both parents are willing and able to provide a safe, loving home for the children. It also expects that the parents will have equal, or as close to equal as possible, time with the children. At times, parents will agree to this type of custody, even if the children will be with one parent more than the other, just to get the settlement complete.
Because child support amount are partially determined by where the children will be spending most of their time, you shouldn’t agree to joint custody if you know the children will be with you the majority of the time. This may cause you to lose money in child support. If the difference in the support isn’t much, you may choose to agree to joint custody just to get the settlement complete.
Primary physical custody is another option. This occurs when one parent will have the children the majority of the time. This may occur if one parent has to travel for work or has moved away. If you do get primary physical custody of your children, remember that the court will still expect that your ex spouse has a regular visitation schedule so your children can have quality time with their other parent.
If only one parent is able to care for the children, this parent is usually given sole physical custody of the children. The other parent may still have visitation rights, but the children will only live with the primary parent. Often, if sole custody is ordered, the visits with the other parent may have to be supervised. This may happen if a parent is abusive or is otherwise unable to be trusted with the safety of the children.
Remember, your children need to see your ex as much as possible. The pain you feel towards their other parent will not stop them from loving him/her as much as always. Throughout your divorce, and in the years after, you must always keep your children’s best interest as your primary goal. Preventing your kids from seeing your ex will hurt your children and won’t make you feel any better about your divorce.
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